My little brother posted that he celebrated his birthday yesterday at a local restaurant with his 'family' and it broke my heart. You see, I wasn't invited to the birthday celebration. This isn't the first time since I left my ex husband that I haven't been invited to family get-togethers and it definitely won't be the last. BUT my 'ah ha' moment, during our walk, was this...
THE PEOPLE IN THE PICTURE ARE MY FAMILY!
I need to worry less about activities and invitations with the family that has made it clear they don't want anything to do with me & worry more about creating traditions with my husband and my daughters. You see, those parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins that want nothing to do with me, because I left an abusive marriage, aren't worth crying over. It is simply time to move on.
So this is me... moving on...
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In my life, some of the hardest things I've had to do was 'move on' from people or family members. It's funny if I think about it, it wasn't the drug addiction, the mental hysteria that resulted, or the failed marriage that were the hardest. It was moving on from people that I didn't want to give up on. I suppose, everyone has different things that are difficult for them. But, making a fresh start for yourself away from those you cared about (which I've done) is heartbreaking. But, trust me when I say, it's worth the pain, and it's worth moving on.
I think that is the most difficult part of this... I don't especially want to be an orphan again. I liked having parents and grandparents that I was close to. BUT... their refusal to even acknowledge my ex was abusive and for them to continue a relationship with him, pretty much sealed their fate in my eyes. Their continued relationship with my past doesn't make room for my new future! So... here's to future and the family I have right now!
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