Saturday, January 27, 2007

Choices...

Every semester I get a new group of freshman. As the semester goes, I get a little preachy in the "how not to screw up your life department" and some of the students get it, some don't. Saturday night I was at a basketball game... I always sit with the students because they are much more interesting than boring faculty.
As I was climbing up the bleachers I saw a previous male student "A" (one that I liked) talking to a previous female student "K" (one that sooo wasn't my fave person). Being the nosy person that I am, when "A" sat down in front of me I asked what was up with that. He turned around and with a straight face told me how she was the love of his life and that she is carrying his child... needless to say I was floored.
Now... these students are both first generation college students... she works 3 jobs to be able to go to school... he struggled with coming back to MCM because of the cost of school... their parents do not help and I can't imagine either set being excited about this pregnancy... but both of the students were all giddy about it. Being the blunt person I am, I looked at "A" and questioned what he was thinking... why he didn't pay attention to any of my lectures... and he, again with a straight face, looked at me and said "but I love her... and when its love, its love." Seeing that it was too late to change their fate... I asked about school and he again straight faced told me that I had done school with two kids and a husband so he guessed they could do it. HUH? I wanted to go into a rant of how difficult it had been to do school with children, how I wished I had done things differently, and how I had a husband to pay the bills while I was going to school... but instead I decided to save it for another day...

I am an instructor at a school where more than half of the students are first generation college students... I hate to see things like this... I care about my students and I want them to succeed... I want them to learn from my mistakes and do better...

1 comment:

Jason and Amy Horton said...

O.K. This is a tough one. I do agree...when it's love, it's love. Jason and I were married at 19. Had Kate by 21, and at 30 have four kids, struggled financially most of our marriage, have had many ups and downs, have never had ANYONE help us, and now...here we are...loving life and EVERYTHING we have done to make it. Those kids will struggle, but who knows, maybe they are in love!! Maybe they will make it. I know you are struggling with the "love" issue right now, but sometimes it really does happen. Sometimes you really can make it. YOU are going to find the real thing in your life too. I KNOW it!! God has a plan...it's just foggy for you right now. I hope you don't take this comment offensively. I really do mean for it to be encouraging. You are going to be happy again!!!!