Monday, March 27, 2006

Friendships

There is a poem that I often receive in my inbox that discusses the reasons that friends come into our lives. They can be placed there by God to satisfy a need, or to help you share, care, and grow. They can stay in your life for a lifetime or just pass through. I do not generally have a difficult time making friends...in fact, I have a tendency to collect them everywhere I go. The part that I have difficulty with is the letting go and saying goodbye. It doesn't seem to matter if the friendship is toxic or if the other party is ready to move on...I will fight for my friendships as long as possible. Today, I had what I'd like to call an "ah ha moment" followed by an "oh crap" moment. As I read the poem again I realized that many of the people I fret over...that I continue to call and invite to things or call to check on, are people that I need to let go of because their purpose has passed...in theory...thus the "ah ha moment". Now, here is the "oh crap" moment...how do you decide who those people are? How do you know that it is time to let a friend go vs. a time to really latch onto a friendship and show the person you care? I can think of people in my life who would fall into both of these categories...and the only reason I can answer that question now is because a large amount of time has passed. So, what are you supposed to do when you are in the heat of the moment? How do you decide who to let go and who to keep?

For those friends who have stuck it out through all my issues (and oh, how I have issues) ....THANK YOU! Thank you for being there when I need a shoulder to cry on...Thank you for being the ones who won't just tell me what I want to hear but instead take the time to tell me what I need to hear (even when I don't want to hear it)...Thank you for being there when I have to pick up the shattered pieces of my life. Ya'll are the best...and you know who you are!

--Jessica

2 comments:

Tammy M. said...

I am glad to have run into you today at Old Navy. I am so glad that I can read about what is going on in your life, because we don't get to see each other on a regular basis anymore. Writing is a great way to work things through. When you get old like me, you might work through an issue in your life, but the next day forgotten how you worked it through, or even what your conclusion was. This way you can go back and read all the progress you have made in your life, and somedays you might just be thrilled with how far you have come. Blessings.

jessica said...

Tammy, You are the best. I love that everytime I see you I know that I can depend on your for Godly advice...you are one of the people I know that will always be supportive and tell me what I need to hear.